The best self help is creating a new self.
The best way to improve conditions, including financial
conditions, is to start by letting go of the self that is
creating those conditions. Then you can be a self that creates
and experiences the preferred conditions.
This is true self help.
Beyond our ideas of right-doing and
wrong-doing, there is a field. I'll meet you
When the soul lies down in that grass, the
world is too full to talk about. Ideas,
language, even the phrase 'each other' doesn't
make sense any more.
in Coleman Barks
The Essential Rumi (Haper San Franscisco,
1995,) p. 36
You are enlightened when you are no longer compulsively
creating any selves. You might choose to deliberately create a
self to function in the world.
You might have noticed that things tend to persist when you
resist them. One good way to release things is to welcome them.
You can use the self help audio exercises on this website. They
help you accept your old selves so you can release them.
At any given point some approaches seem to be more
appropriate than others. You are welcome to try the various
audios and continue with whichever ones seem best for you.
Extensive use of these processes could bring you into a
state of euphoria. You could have a feeling of acceptance or
peace where you feel no need to do anything about anything. If
you have responsibilities, or if you don't want the old default
self to come back, it would be a good idea to create a new self
that gets into action.
You can start creating your new self by writing down your
chosen beliefs, attitudes, feelings, and qualities. It's like
an actor playing a role. Deliberately be that self with
the chosen beliefs, attitudes, feelings, and qualities. When
you're not creating any subconscious conflicts from various
selves, you're likely to accomplish your goals much more easily
This new self might not automatically persist since you're
not creating it compulsively and you're not creating anything
to oppose it. You might have to deliberately create that new
Are you faking it? No. You're only faking it if you attempt
to be a self that conflicts with other selves you're also
creating. The following exercises will help you release those
If you don't want to alienate your friends, you should be
reasonably predictable in the self that you create. In other
words, you wouldn't create one self today and a dramatically
different self tomorrow.
You will benefit from the audios on this website. If you
really want to go for it, you can do one of our meditation
The above information might not make a whole lot of sense at
the moment. Or it might seem strange. However, if you keep
doing these exercises, this will all become quite natural. And
your life experience could be very enjoyable and more under
your own control.
Some time after writing this article, I asked Dr. David R.
Hawkins about creating a new self to replace the old self. He
asked why I wanted to do that.
I answered him with statements like the above.
He responded with something I didn't understand. My
reply was "Huh?"
He then said that a persona would keep things going. After
standing in his presence for a few more moments, I realized "I
was trying to control it." I let go of control and exploded
This was a major spiritual leap for me.
We have to let go of everything including control and
including our selves.