Beyond Self Help

The best self help is creating a new self.

The best way to improve conditions, including financial conditions, is to start by letting go of the self that is creating those conditions. Then you can be a self that creates and experiences the preferred conditions.

This is true self help.

Beyond our ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing, there is a field. I'll meet you there.

When the soul lies down in that grass, the world is too full to talk about. Ideas, language, even the phrase 'each other' doesn't make sense any more.

Jelaluddin Rumi
in Coleman Barks The Essential Rumi (Haper San Franscisco, 1995,) p. 36

You are enlightened when you are no longer compulsively creating any selves. You might choose to deliberately create a self to function in the world.

You might have noticed that things tend to persist when you resist them. One good way to release things is to welcome them. You can use the self help audio exercises on this website. They help you accept your old selves so you can release them.

At any given point some approaches seem to be more appropriate than others. You are welcome to try the various audios and continue with whichever ones seem best for you.

Extensive use of these processes could bring you into a state of euphoria. You could have a feeling of acceptance or peace where you feel no need to do anything about anything. If you have responsibilities, or if you don't want the old default self to come back, it would be a good idea to create a new self that gets into action.

You can start creating your new self by writing down your chosen beliefs, attitudes, feelings, and qualities. It's like an actor playing a role. Deliberately be that self with the chosen beliefs, attitudes, feelings, and qualities. When you're not creating any subconscious conflicts from various selves, you're likely to accomplish your goals much more easily than before.

This new self might not automatically persist since you're not creating it compulsively and you're not creating anything to oppose it. You might have to deliberately create that new self continuously.

Are you faking it? No. You're only faking it if you attempt to be a self that conflicts with other selves you're also creating. The following exercises will help you release those other selves.

If you don't want to alienate your friends, you should be reasonably predictable in the self that you create. In other words, you wouldn't create one self today and a dramatically different self tomorrow.

You will benefit from the audios on this website. If you really want to go for it, you can do one of our meditation retreat vacations.

The above information might not make a whole lot of sense at the moment. Or it might seem strange. However, if you keep doing these exercises, this will all become quite natural. And your life experience could be very enjoyable and more under your own control.


Some time after writing this article, I asked Dr. David R. Hawkins about creating a new self to replace the old self. He asked why I wanted to do that.

I answered him with statements like the above.

He responded with something I didn't understand. My reply was "Huh?"

He then said that a persona would keep things going. After standing in his presence for a few more moments, I realized "I was trying to control it." I let go of control and exploded into laughter.

This was a major spiritual leap for me.

We have to let go of everything including control and including our selves.